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In this article, I will talk about typical nice guy behaviors that make you suck with women.
In fact, a lot of it has to do with "social conditioning."
Mainstream society is notorious for giving us horrible advice on attracting women... and it turns many of us into nice guy "WUSSIES".
What Everyone Usually Says
Whenever we get advice from movies, or people you know, what do they typically say?
They say "You should just be yourself and everything will be just fine" or... "you should tell her how you feel"
That's the usual mainstream advice that you hear.
However, the advice"just be yourself" can be easily used as an excuse to avoid walking through fear... something that is crucial to evolving as a man. For example, of there's a pretty girl you're afraid to approach, it's very easy to justify "I don't feel like I'm being myself when I approach her, therefore, I will stay here in my comfort zone."
Similarly, the grand act of revealing your feelings to a girl will probably end in rejection if you don't understand how attraction works.
How does attraction work? Well let's first start by eliminating your nice guy mistakes.
If you follow the mainstream advice you hear in the media, you've probably turned into a nice guy... and there are mistakes nice guys typically do that cause them to lose girls.
Nice Guys Put Women on Pedestals
Never put the woman on a pedestal.
Nice guys do it, but what does it mean?
Putting a girl on a pedestal means you are giving your power away to her. You are trying to hard to be an approval-seeking pleaser, that you sacrifice yourself and let her have anything she wants.
You probably lost a few girls because of this. I know I have... and the hurt teaches us a very important lesson: Don't supplicate to women by putting them on pedestals!
Subtle Ways You Might Be Supplicating to Women
You probably are more aware of the obvious ways to give our power away to women, but what about the more subtle things that we do "automatically"?
There are subtle ways we supplicate without even noticing and it makes women lose attraction for us.
For example...
You're seeing a girl. She likes hip hop, while you like rock music. Whenever this girl gets in your car, she changes the radio station to hip hop music... and you just let her do this even though you don't like it.
Because in your mind, you feel she's more important than you.
Again, it's very subtle when this happens, but deep down, you feel that it's more important that enjoys the music, than you enjoying it.
Now chivalry and being cool is one thing. But this is about not putting yourself BELOW the girl in fear that she won't like you if you don't please her.
Instead, put both you and her on an EQUAL level
That's how to stop being the nice guy.
Another example...
You're at the bar and a girl goes up to you and says "Will you buy me a drink?"
Typically, there are two extremes guys take here. One is the nice guy who will eagerly buy her a drink. The other is guy who heard "stop being so nice, don't buy women drinks"... and so he comes off as a combative jerk.
What to do instead? Here's what you do...
When a girl says "buy me a drink" say "sure I'll buy you a drink, but first get us a couple of tables so we can sit and talk"
Again, you two are on an equal level.
Which means, if you're going to do things for her, she's also going to do things for you!
So if she asks for a favor...
You make sure she also does something for you so she contributes!
Same goes for if she wants to change the radio station.
You say "I'll let you listen to Hot97, but only if you sing me the first verse of Bohemian Rhapsody."
Boom, you make sure she also contributes... so that you're not just this nice guy bending over backwards doing favors for the girl.
And when there's a nice balance of both of you doing things for each other, that's a great interaction.
Because want to know the secret to making a girl fall in love with you? It's INVESTMENT.
Look, if you can get a girl to invest and do things for you, then you're IN!
Because once she starts investing, she backwards rationalizes "I must really like this guy otherwise I wouldn't be doing all these things for him".
And this is secret of why "jerks" get girls.
It's not that he is "mean" to her and that the nice guy is "nice".
It's this...
The nice guy = invests way too much on a girl while she does nothing
The jerk = invests only a little, but knows exactly how to get a woman to invest in them (and women LOVE it when you make them work to win you over)
That's how to stop being the nice guy.
Next: Read 3 Nice Guy Mistakes Men Make With Women
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