If you feel that you let your wife go, but now wish more than anything to get her back... then this is the most important article you're ever going to read.
Here's why:
Right now, we are facing a divorce epidemic. America in particular, is facing the highest divorce rates EVER. Today in America, it is expected that 40-55% of all marriages will FAIL in divorce!
Let that sink in for a second.
This means that half of all "just married" posts you see on Facebook (you know... the ones with hundreds of likes and happy comments from friends and family)... will end in divorce. Half of all
the marriages you attend this summer will not be "happily ever after."
They won't last!
Sorry to be such a party-pooper, but it's important for you to understand why this happens if you want to get your wife back.
Why are marriages working out less and less?
Part of it has to do with what you've been led to believe by society. The media, our friends, our family, and even Hollywood movies have brainwashed us to believe the wrong process of how "attracting a woman" works. As well-intentioned as some of the advice may be, it actually makes men SUCK with women.
If you do what everyone else does, you have a high chance of becoming part of the tragic divorce statistic.
Take the time to learn what it takes to get your wife back before divorce, and you will be able to pull through and your wife will be back in your arms again.
So let's go over some big mistakes you're probably making. In particular, there are 3 myths of what everyone says you should do to save your marriage that actually make things WORSE.
3 Dangerous Myths That Stop You From Getting Your Wife Back
There are 3 myths everyone gives you as "advice" when it comes to getting your wife back.
Myth #1: "Communication is the Key to a Great Relationship"
This may be true, but only in a healthy relationship with a solid foundation of love, trust, and respect.
But NOT if you're in a BROKEN relationship where your wife sees you as weak.
Because when your wife has hardened her heart for you, communicating how you love her, miss her, and want her back... only makes you come across WEAKER.
That's why I always recommend going "no contact" whenever a student asks me for help after a breakup. No contact stops you from impulsively sending your wife texts that pour out your feelings and beg her to take you back.
Instead, you should be coming from a position of STRENGTH.
And what being strong means for you right now, is that you should NEVER EVER EVER beg your wife to take you back.
And now the next myth...
Myth #2: "Lavish Her With Gifts to Win Her Affection Back"
You might get this type of advice from your buddies during "locker room" talk.
To compensate for the fact that you're behaving in a way that pushes your wife away... you shower her with gifts with the hopes that it will magically make her eager to take you back.
However, this is the WRONG move. It will not work.
Why? Because it doesn't fix the underlying fundamental problem that's making her fall out of love with you.
Buying her more things isn't going to change it, and it further pushes her away because she feels you don't "get" how to make her want you back again.
Also, she knows you are trying to get her back with EXTERNAL things like gifts, and not because she wants to get back with you for WHO YOU ARE.
I mean, do you really want to be with a woman who is with you because of the material things you provide for her... and not because she just loves being around you? This only filters for dishonesty and gold-diggers.
So if you're sending flowers to her work... or if you're thinking about getting her that necklace she's being wanting for a while... DON'T DO IT.
Buying meaningful gifts in a relationship is totally fine... but when the relationship bond is already weak, and you're buying her gifts as an attempt to compensate for her not feeling attraction for you anymore... and you're giving her a gift as a means to "bribe" her to take you back... it will only do more DAMAGE to the already weakened relationship.
It's like there's a big hole in the relationship, and you're trying to patch it up with material things. But you're still ignoring the hole. It will still persist.
Instead... you want to give your wife one "magic" feeling that makes her eager to get back together with you. I'll tell you about what this feeling is in a minute, but first let's go over the 3rd myth.
Myth #3: "Show Her How Much You Care and She'll Realize it and Take You Back"
Another myth perpetuated by Hollywood and the media.
Time and time again, romantic comedies teach us that the way to a woman's heart is to prove to her that you really love her... and then when she realizes this... she will magically fall back in love with you again.
Men try this, and then proceed to attempt to fix their broken marriage with thoughtful actions like
- Saying "I love you" more often
- Helping her out with her problems
- Making more special "date nights"
- Sending her cute little texts to show her you're thinking about her
- Being there for her
Once again, these things are AWESOME when a relationship is already thriving.
When a relationship is broken, however, it only makes the problem worse.
These "thoughtful" actions fail not because you didn't prove to her that you cared. Trust me, she already KNOWS that you care. These behaviors fail because they don't address the fundamental issue
with the relationship.
Do you what the issue is?
These seemingly romantic behaviors don't work because they don't make the woman feel that 1 specific feeling she needs to feel to want to be back with you.
What is this feeling?
It's ATTRACTION.
Attraction is it!
Making your wife feel attraction for you is the most important thing you need to focus on if you ever want to get her back.
Learning to make attracted to you is the path to saving your marriage and stopping your divorce.
Once you start making her feel attraction for you again, she'll start doubting her decision to leave you, and she'll start wanting to make the marriage work.
However, right now she sees you as WEAK.
I'm sorry, but this is the reality you have to work with... for now.
You simply aren't triggering enough attraction in her. Plus, if you're doing any of the behaviors listed in myths 1 through 3 on this article... you're making her even LESS attracted.
This is because the "romantic gestures" I mentioned only make her feel PRESSURED and MANIPULATED. She probably sees right through these gestures and automatically throws up an "emotional wall" that makes her hesitant to reconnect with you emotionally.
She doesn't want to be tricked to get back with you. She wants to be truly attracted... and secretly, she hopes you are able to do it.
Because she once felt attraction for you. That's why she married you! It's just that somewhere along the way, you started acting weak... probably without even knowing it.
I hope this article has shown you how to get your wife back before divorce by helping you identify any weak behaviors... and best of luck with re-attracting your wife back!
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