Why Did My Girlfriend Leave Me For Another Guy

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Whenever a guy writes me asking "why did my girlfriend leave me for another guy"...

...the real question is: "Why did this girl lose attraction for you?"

Because here's the deal:

Your girlfriend lost attraction for you and either 1. You had no idea she was losing interest, or 2. You had a bad feeling that something was wrong, but you didn't know what to do about it

The general reason she lost attraction is simple:

When she first fell in love, you did something to attract her, and she was attracted to that version of you. However, somewhere along the way you stopped being "attractive"... and you turned into a "weak" insecure version of yourself that turned the girl off.

More Specific Reasons She Lost Attraction

When you're not emotionally strong and centered (this is masculine energy)... and you are weak and easily get thrown "off balance"...

This particularly happens when a girl becomes distant.

When she seems a little distant... maybe she stops texting you like before... or she doesn't seem as eager to meet you... or if she mentions a guy friend she hangs out with... all of this makes you worried that you're going to lose her.

So what your brain does here is that it becomes dependent on her "validation".

You start overvaluing her texts. Whenever she texts you, it makes you feel awesome... but whenever she goes a long time without texting you back, you feel like crap.

In essence, you are not emotionally strong and centered like a man.

The girl senses this and loses attraction... and she starts lining up another guy to take your place.

I know this is hard to hear. But women don't leave without another option ready.

By the time she decides to dump you, she already has lost almost all attraction for you... and she already knows which guy will take your place.

This isn't something that happens overnight. Women slowly gain attraction over time, and they slowly lose it. If you don't notice she's losing attraction, it can cause deep pain when she surprises you with "the talk".

That's why it's important to get this part of your life handled... to avoid this happening, and to make sure you get the results you want of a lasting happy relationship.

But now the result you want is to "flip" the attraction of your ex girlfriend to get back the relationship you once had.

You want her back more than anything in the world. You wish you knew exactly how.

The first part is to go over the mistakes that cause your girlfriend to lose attraction.

We went over some of them.

Next, you want to further understand how attraction works so that you are able to use it to attract your ex girlfriend back.

A big part of this is the "no contact" rule... and to communicate with your ex girlfriend the correct way when she reaches out. (Most guys mess this part up)

In this article, I reveal how:

http://championsofmen.com/when-your-ex-girlfriend-reaches-out-after-a-long-time-of-no-contact/

How to Re-Attract Your Ex Girlfriend Back to You

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When your girlfriend doesn't "feel it" anymore and decides to leave you... you feel like your whole world has ended.

Your mind scrambles to find answers as to why she lost attraction, and most importantly, how to get her back.

And this all comes down to this question: How do you make a girl get "feelings" for you again?

Keep reading, because the real answer to this might shock you.

And it all starts with this 1 critical fact about attraction:

Attraction Isn't "Set in Stone"

Just as a woman falls "in love with you" when her attraction level ramps up high enough... she can fall out of love with you when she loses the attraction.

The tides of attraction can change. Your girl seemed so in love with you before, now she's gone completely cold and you have no idea how it happened.

It hurts when you notice a girl start to slowly fade away.

• She doesn't reply to your texts like before...
• She doesn't call you by your petname like before...
• She doesn't include you in your future plans like she did before...

(Here are more signs your girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore)

At the pit of your stomach... you sense something is VERY wrong.

You just FEEL something bad is going to happen... and soon enough, she gives you the "talk".

She says she wants to take a "break"... says she doesn't "feel the same anymore" or maybe she gives an excuse like you two aren't compatible, or she doesn't date guys who are younger, or much older, etc.

Whatever reason she gives, it's her way of rationalizating why she lost attraction for you. But the important is that she lost the ATTRACTION. That's what really matters.

Why Did She Lose Attraction?

Women become attracted to you due to the way you carry yourself... but they can lose attraction when you change your behavior and start acting weak.

This often happens when you get fearful, insecure feelings... and she feels you are getting too needy.

If a woman ever mentions that she feels smothered, or that you're acting clingy, it's a strong sign that you're becoming too needy and it's turning her off.

When you lose your masculine spark and you start acting like an insecure little wuss, women get turned off and become distant. What's worse is that when she fades away, you act even more insecure and it makes the problem worse and worse until it all ends in a downward spiral.

The Good News

Ok, here's some good news. (Finally right?)

The good news is that, as I said before, attraction isn't "set in stone".

If you change the way you carry yourself it's very possible to re-attract your ex girlfriend back to you.

But to do this, you must radically change the way you think RIGHT NOW.

The reason is that the way you're thinking at this moment is probably a distortion of reality.

See, you're doing the things that a part of you thinks will re-attract your ex girlfriend back... while a different, wiser part of you knows that doing the same things that got you bad results won't get you the good result you want.

However, you are confused on what to do... so you're just instinctively doing things because you feel you at least have to do SOMETHING.

In this article, you will learn the steps and mindsets that re-attract your ex girlfriend back to you:
http://championsofmen.com/how-to-re-attract-your-ex-girlfriend-back-to-you/

Signs My Ex Girlfriend Wants Me Back

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So... your ex girlfriend texted you out of the blue and now you're suddenly wondering if you could get her back.

But before you do anything else, read this article to learn the #1 mistake men make when trying to
"convince" their ex girlfriends to be in a relationship with them again.

Students often write me asking "what are the signs my ex girlfriend wants me back"

Let's go over some of these signs.

1. She Starts Using Your "Pet Name" Again

This is a big sign that she wants to make things go back to how they were before.

It signifies comfort, and a "lovey-dovey" vibe.

2. She Sounds Eager to Communicate With You and Texts You Back Quickly

When a woman loses attraction for you, she distances herself, and you notice she isn't texting you like before.

But if you notice an ex girlfriend changes and she's suddenly eager to talk, it's a strong indicator she's thinking about you and misses you.

3. She Randomly Texts You Out of the Blue

If you're wondering what are the "signs my ex girlfriend wants me back?"...then here's something you should know about female psychology...

When your ex girlfriend texts you out of the blue, it's for a reason.

See, when a girl misses you, she starts thinking about you, and then figures out a way to jump back into your life.

She will probably do this very INDIRECTLY.  Meaning, she might use an"excuse".

And here's what you should do:

Whatever method she uses to get back into your life, assume the reason she's doing it is because she wants to see you... and then suggest meeting up.

The detailed plan of what to do in this situation is laid out in this article where I go through what to do when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact.

However, you must beware. The following blunder is one guys keep making ALL THE TIME.

The #1 Big Mistake

Want to know the biggest mistake men make when trying to get an ex back?

It's this:

Pushing your ex girlfriend away because you're trying to get the relationship label back too quickly.

Yes your ex is back in your life... and you want to take advantage of this opportunity to make her yours again... but pressuring her to commit to being "official" again will only work against you.

It makes the girl feel "less free"... it makes things "serious" and less fun... your interactions lose qualities that generate attraction.

And as soon as you try to cage your ex into a relationship, she will feel pressured, her attraction will fade, and you will lose her AGAIN... and maybe this time forever.

What you should instead do is start from the beginning. Only focus on having fun and getting physical with her.

Also...

• Don't be attached to whether she is exclusively yours or not
• Don't talk about the meaning of you and her
• Don't get into "feelings" talk
• Don't ask her when you're going to be "together" again
• Don't be clingy
• Don't become needy of her attention to feel good

Instead, hang out, have fun, and hook up.

Your goal is just to arrange dates that lead to sex.

Be clever about it. Making dinner together at your place, in your kitchen (which is 15 feet from your bed)  is 100 times better than dinner at some fancy restaurant. You'll get laid a lot more being smart about logistics.

If you carry yourself with this attitude, your ex will become more and more attracted until she starts bringing up being in a relationship again. That's how you make your ex girlfriend fall in love with you more than ever before.

How to Win Back a Girl Who Has lost Interest

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When a Girl Goes Cold...

 An awesome, special girl you really like has gone distant...
and so you want to know how to win back a girl who has lost itnerest.

Shortly, I'll reveal how.

Why She Went Cold

When a girl who used to like you starts going cold, there's always that moment when she starts fading away.

You get a bad feeling in your stomach that something is different.

She doesn't want to meet up like before... she comes up excuses... she doesn't reply to your texts like before.

You're worried that you'll lose the connection you have with her, but worse of all, you feel she's starting to like some other guy and THEY are hooking up without you knowing.

But now let's answer the big question, why did the girl go cold?

The reason she went cold is that she lost attraction for you, and now she feels she's "above" you.

This is the IMAGE she has of you.

There was something you did, over time, that created this image, and made her lose attraction.

See, for a woman to feel attraction for you, she has have the image that you are at least slightly above her.

Girlfriends who lose attraction for their boyfriends do so when their boyfriends commit the typical mistakes that make the girl see them as weak and insecure.

When the boyfriend starts acting like a needy, insecure puppy, the girl loses attraction and doesn't think of him as the strong man she wants.

Many guys mess up because they do things like...

• Getting needy over text 
• Texting too much
• Getting jealous
• Revealing how they feel about her and how he's afraid of of losing her
• Constantly checking up on her and acting like the possessive boyfriend 
• Acting clingy and making her feel smothered

Do you want to know how to win back a girl who has lost interest and flip your situation around?

You must do specific behaviors that break this image she has of you and replace it with another one where she sees you as an "attractive man" again.

First, stop doing the mistakes I mentioned. They are stopping her love from coming back.

Once you start acting strong, that will greatly improve your chances.

Next: Incorporate these 3 behaviors into your life to boost the "value" she sees in you

She Lost Interest? Here's How to Get it Back

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When a woman you like doesn't like you back, it drives you crazy.

You really want her, but you fear you will never have her.

Your brain spins around trying to come up ways to make her like you.

If a girl isn't reciprocating your affection, the good news is that there is a way to turn this situation around.

This article reveals something called "the *SECRET* pattern of interaction" that you can use to your advantage to make a woman get an urge to sleep with you:

She lost interest? How to Get it Back by Breaking the Pattern of interaction

The bad news is that it's very hard to break this pattern once it's settled.

One reason is that we are creatures of habit.

But the most important reason is that you're so dependent on this girl's VALIDATION.

See, you don't want to break the pattern because you don't want to break rapport. You need this girl's approval to feel good about yourself. It's like you're the little puppy and she's the mommy and you need her approval to have a sense of IDENTITY.

However, if you want to sleep with this woman and make her feel a strong attraction for you, you must first step out of your comfort zone, and do what needs to be done.

Because here's harsh truth is this:

If a girl isn't attracted to you, it's because she feels you are "lower-status" than her.

Moreover, she doesn't see you as someone she can be more than friends with... she doesn't imagine
getting romantic or sexual with you.

This is an image she has in her mind that you have to change.

How?

By doing things that break that image and make her think of you differently.

When you do behaviors that plant ideas in her mind and she starts imagining what it'll be
like to sleep with you, then she thinks "This guy isn't who I thought he was, he is different".

And that's when her image of you changes, and she starts feeling attraction for you.

How to make this happen?

Learn more here.