"Ex Girlfriend Acting Cold Towards Me" - Avoid THIS Mistake

If your ex girlfriend is acting cold and distant towards you, and it's really driving you crazy, then you need to read this article.

When I receive emails asking "why is my ex girlfriend acting cold towards me?"... I immediately advise my students to not send her anymore texts.

When an ex girlfriend has gone cold, it means she needs space because her attraction for you has gone down.

You don't want to make it worse by repeatedly sending text messages that annoy her.

Not understanding the mechanism of how women feel smothered and need space when you act too clingy might even be the reason she broke up with you in the first place!

You must create space to allow her to fall in love with you.

Start by giving her space RIGHT NOW.

Yeah, I know you feel that by leaving her alone, she will leave and you will lose her, but trust me on this one. The more you chase when she retreats, the more you will REALLY LOSE HER.

So what do you do instead?

Wait for her to come to you.

Don't text her anymore, AT ALL, until she reaches out again.

When She Reaches Out Again, Start From the Beginning

So she reaches out, and seems more eager to talk to you, now what do you do?

When a woman starts giving you interest again, you must not take it as "she is 100% attracted to me, and wants to be my girlfriend again!"

No, attraction doesn't work that way.

You have to imagine you're dating her again from the very beginning.

That's how you get her attraction back up.

If you are desperate to have her back as your girlfriend, in order to feel "complete" as a person, you're going to inevitably ruin it. See, you won't be able to be the fun, attractive version of yourself that she is attracted to... because you won't be happy unless you KNOW you possess her as your girlfriend.

• You'll keep pestering her with questions about the "relationship label"...
• You'll ask her about her feelings and what it all means...
• You'll be too needy about having her back and you won't focus on what's required to re-attract her back.

And that's why, to trigger her attraction back, you must do THIS:

Only focus on having fun and hooking up. Create fun, romantic dates that lead to sex. (ideally make the date at your house).

Have fun, hook up, but without getting into "relationship talk" or "feelings talk".

Do this about once a week without texting too much in-between dates, and her attraction will ramp back up until she starts saying "let's talk about 'us'" and she brings up getting "back together".

But My Ex Girlfriend is Acting Cold Towards Me, What do I do Now?

As I said previously, if your ex is going cold, you must remain no contact until she reaches out.

In the meantime, focus your mind on other things by going out with buddies, focusing on school/work, working on hobbies, and MEETING OTHER GIRLS.

The last is crucial. If you're just focused on just your ex girlfriend in this point of your life, you will easily become obsessed with her... you will become too needy for her... and all of this will STOP YOU from attracting her back when she does decide to reach out.

That's why it's critical that you start seeing other girls.

Not only is this the best path to re-attracting your ex girlfriend back, but it's also the path that will help you recover in case you don't get her back.

"Why Did My Ex Girlfriend Text Me After 6 Months?"

Question: "Why did my ex girlfriend text me after 6 months?"

When your ex girlfriend suddenly texts you out of the blue, your emotions get lit up and you are back in the game.

You feel you have a chance to get her back and you want to make it happen.

If you don't know what to do, you'll accidentally push her away and she'll lose attraction again.

The Reason Your Ex Girlfriend Texted You After 6 Months

If you didn't absolutely thrash your chances by acting pathetic or being an obsessed stalker, then your ex girlfriend might start to look back at your relationship with rose-colored lenses.

Meaning, she will more likely ignore the bad parts of it and remember the good.

As she wonders about you, she gets curious of what you're up to.

She wonders if you're seeing a new girl, or if your life has changed.

So she jumps back into your orbit by reaching out... and that's why your ex girlfriend texted you after 6 months.

Now what she says and the words she texts you aren't as important as this:

If she reached out and texted you, it means you have been on her mind and she feels at least a bit of attraction for you.

See, a woman will contact you in a very indirect way. She might not directly tell you she misses you, but her act of wanting to interact with you says it all.

This gives you a glimmer of hope of getting her back.

Now as you get excited about the idea of having her back, you must realize something very important:

The reason she fell in love with you is ATTRACTION... the reason she fell OUT of love was LOSS of ATTRACTION... and the reason she is back in your life is that she is feeling ATTRACTION again.

Attraction isn't about how much money you make... or how good you look.  The guys who get all the girls are usually NOT the best looking guy in the room.

It's all about the emotions you make her feel with how you carry yourself.

For instance, if you act a bit too needy jumping at the opportunity of being "in a relationship" again, her attraction will go down.

Attraction isn't an "ON" or "OFF" switch, it's a sliding scale.

You do things to pump up her attraction, or you do things that make her attraction go down.

When the average guy gets a surprise text from their ex girlfriend, they inadvertently make mistakes that make her attraction go back down.

The Biggest Mistake to Avoid is: Don't SKIP STEPS

Look, it's awesome that your girl is showing interest again, but trying to put a "relationship label" on the interaction will push her away.

You gota take it slowly and only think about creating dates that lead to sex.

Your sole focus should just be, having fun and hooking up. 

• no "feelings talk"
• no trying to convince her to get back into the relationship
• no texting her every day (most of texting should be to make plans to meet)
• create dates only about 1 a week
• "LOVER" first, "BOYFRIEND" later

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Keeps Contacting You

Here's why your ex girlfriend keeps contacting you:

You are on her mind.

Now there's something you should know:

Attraction Isn't "Set in Stone"

Look at it this way...

This girl loved you before when you were together. Things were awesome.

But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling the love and it made her stop wanting to be your girlfriend.

She went from loving you, to not loving you.

Now, since attraction isn't "fixed", the love a woman felt for you was only IN THE MOMENT during that time... and it can't be applied to a different time when she doesn't love you.

So when you go back in contact with your ex girlfriend, you gotta start over from the beginning and
re-attract her again. You can't assume the previous years of love and jump back into the relationship
right away.

It doesn't work like that. You'll push her away.

However, here are some good news...

Because attraction isn't set in stone, yes the woman can go from loving you to not loving you, but she can ALSO go from loving you to getting the love back.

And since your ex girlfriend keeps contacting you, it means she is feeling at least some attraction for you.

Maybe she's wondering what you've been up to, and wants to get back in your life.

Or she's reminiscing about the time you spend together, and she suddenly wants to experience that again.

If you know what to do, and you handle your situation correctly, you can get the relationship back.

But if you make the 1 common mistake guys make when an ex girlfriend reaches out...  you'll push her away and lose your chance forever.

What are these mistakes?

I'll give you a little nugget of wisdom you should write down somewhere in a notebook.

One of the 5 Toxic Behaviors that STOP Your Ex Girlfriend From Loving You Again is...

Trying to Convince Her to "Get Back Together" With You

Like I covered earlier in this article, attraction isn't "set in stone". Attraction is a sliding scale that you increase or decrease.

So when your ex girlfriend shows a bit of attraction by reaching out and wanting to talk... it doesn't mean she is 100% in love and ready to be in a relationship again.

Instead of trying to put a "relationship label" on what you + her are... your sole focus should just be to create a get-together where you two have a fun romantic experience that leads to sex.

No getting serious, no talking about feelings, no trying to make it an "official relationship", only focus on having fun and hooking up.

The minute you start getting into "relationship mode"... you'll push her away and she'll feel smothered.

Instead, let the woman be the one to bring up being in a relationship. And if you carry yourself in a confident, non-needy manner while you have sexy dates with her, she'll eventually bring up getting the relationship back.

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Just Wants to Be Friends

I get emails all the time asking what do you do when your ex girlfriend just wants to be friends.

In other words... the situation when you are in the "friend zone" with your ex girlfriend because somewhere along the way, she lost attraction for you.

It deeply hurts you that she is different now. She used to love you, you had a strong connection, but now she doesn't FEEL that way anymore.

You miss the intimacy and the sweet things you used to do together. You wish you could just bring it all back.

If this is your situation, keep reading.

I'm going to show you what it takes to reverse your breakup and make your ex girlfriend want you again.

But first, there's 1 THING YOU NEED TO KNOW:

When your ex girlfriend breaks up with you, it means she no longer feels ATTRACTED.

It all comes down to ATTRACTION.

And the reason she lost attraction is probably because you made mistakes along the way that made her stop seeing you as an attractive guy.

This usually happens when men get NEEDY.

You might have acted needy without realizing it was making your girlfriend lose attraction for you.

When you did, your girlfriend distanced herself from you to seek space... but in all likelyhood, this made you more needy, so you chased, crowded her space, and made her lose attraction even MORE.

Instead, when a girl fades away, let her have that space.

I know, it might feel like you'll lose her forever if you leave her alone, but trust me on this one.

Repeatedly texting a woman who isn't replying, asking her "what's wrong", or even texting her more to make up for the fact that she's going cold will only make her want to distance herself more from you.

Remember this next time it happens to you with your ex or in a future relationship, so that you avoid losing another great woman.

I know it's hard to give a space when she's fading away, because every bone in your body has the urge to chase her to get her back... but you'll likely lose her because you did TOO MUCH, not because you didn't do anything.

Staying in Your Strong Masculine Core

See, it all comes down to your "masculine core" and whether you stray off of it.

When a girl who acts nice and makes you feel good stops acting nice, and you freak out, she loses attraction because she senses you are WEAK.

A woman wants a man who's a mountain anchored down hard. Not a sailboat flailing uncontrollably
in the wind.

So when you freak out when she goes distant...

• You show her that your eemotions can't handle her fading away
• You demonstrate that your self-esteem depends on her being nice to you
• She feels that if you become "weakened" by a girl who stops texting you, then you can't protect her from REAL danger

Ex Girlfriend Want to Be Just Friends, Now What?

This is what you do.

When your ex says she wants to breakup and remain as friends, don't accept being just friends... and then tell her to reach out if she changes her mind.

See, if you're not interested in anything platonic, and instead you want to be "more than friends", then you need to stand up for yourself and go for what you want.

This is a strong move where you come off direct and you leave the open for her to reach out in the future.

Then walk away and don't contact her again, unless she reaches out.

"Why is My Girlfriend Mad At Me?" - When She is Rude

Your girlfriend has been getting mad at you lately, and you don't know how to make it better... which makes you REALLY frustrated.

If you're asking "why is my girlfriend mad at me?!"...then keep reading.

Especially if:

• She gets angry over the smallest things...
  
• You feel you have to tip-toe around what you say to avoid making her mad...
  
• You feel she doesn't respect you anymore...
  
• You worry that you're going to lose the relationship...

Dealing with a girlfriend who's rude to you or who easily gets mad is critical to maintaining the attraction.

If you let a woman walk all over you, you will become weak in her eyes, and she'll lose attraction.

But handle this correctly, and you'll gain her respect and attraction back.

Now here's something very important you should know:

Women Act Mad and Moody When You Act Weak

A woman hates it when their boyfriend acts needy and fearful about them.

It's annoying to them, because they want a boyfriend who isn't a wuss.

They want a man... so the female will instinctively test your boundaries... to see how you react.

Will you freak out... or will you be unfazed... solid as a rock?

So she may go distant at one point... and this will actually be a "test". See, like the tide that goes up and down, a woman might get busy and will need time away from you to deal with her emotions.

Your reaction to this is CRITICAL.

(More: Why a girl acts cold and distant)

If your girlfriend has been getting mad at you lately, ask yourself: "Is she legitimally stressed?... is she just acting immature?...

Or is it your weak behavior that's annoying her and causing her to act this way?

If you're displaying weakness, and it's turning a woman off, then here's something else you need to know:

When Women Lose Attraction, it Doesn't Happen Overnight

See, women lose attraction slowly over time... not all at once.

If you're the kind of person who gets fearful that a girl might leave you... and if things she does makes you imagine bad scenarios of her dumping you, cheating, or liking one of her guy friends more... then that fear will cause you to display weak needy behavior.

But ironically, all of these fears over time increase the risk of making your fears a REALITY.

This leads us to...

The Exercise of Valuing Yourself

If you get irrational feelings that she won't like you anymore and hook up with another guy,
then you're not valuing yourself enough.

You gotta think to yourself:

• "I am a catch""...
• "If she treats me badly, she doesn't deserve me"
• "I only accept first-class treatment from women"...
• "I filter for awesome girls who treasure me and want to join me on my journey of life"...
• "If she cheats, she is disqualified and I don't want her anyways"...
• "She is lucky to be with me, if she throws the relationship away, she will miss out"...
• "I am on my journey, on my path, she will miss the train if she doesn't join me in this journey"...

Read these affirmations and see which ones resonate with you. Feel free to use your own wording to come up with more affirmations.

The bottom line is that you must stand up for yourself and respect yourself if you want women to respect and love you as well.

When you give up your power in order to please a woman to avoid her getting mad at you... it usually means you're in SCARCITY.

Meaning, you feel that if you lose her it'll be the end of the world, so you really want to keep her. You'll do anything to keep her... including sacrificing yourself and putting yourself down.

So if a girlfriend is rude, abusive, and gets mad for the silliest things, remember that there are tons of women out there in the world.

Be a man of OPTIONS, and your brain will stop having intense irrational feelings that step from scarcity... and it'll make your dating life more successful and happy.