"Ex Girlfriend Acting Cold Towards Me" - Avoid THIS Mistake

If your ex girlfriend is acting cold and distant towards you, and it's really driving you crazy, then you need to read this article.

When I receive emails asking "why is my ex girlfriend acting cold towards me?"... I immediately advise my students to not send her anymore texts.

When an ex girlfriend has gone cold, it means she needs space because her attraction for you has gone down.

You don't want to make it worse by repeatedly sending text messages that annoy her.

Not understanding the mechanism of how women feel smothered and need space when you act too clingy might even be the reason she broke up with you in the first place!

You must create space to allow her to fall in love with you.

Start by giving her space RIGHT NOW.

Yeah, I know you feel that by leaving her alone, she will leave and you will lose her, but trust me on this one. The more you chase when she retreats, the more you will REALLY LOSE HER.

So what do you do instead?

Wait for her to come to you.

Don't text her anymore, AT ALL, until she reaches out again.

When She Reaches Out Again, Start From the Beginning

So she reaches out, and seems more eager to talk to you, now what do you do?

When a woman starts giving you interest again, you must not take it as "she is 100% attracted to me, and wants to be my girlfriend again!"

No, attraction doesn't work that way.

You have to imagine you're dating her again from the very beginning.

That's how you get her attraction back up.

If you are desperate to have her back as your girlfriend, in order to feel "complete" as a person, you're going to inevitably ruin it. See, you won't be able to be the fun, attractive version of yourself that she is attracted to... because you won't be happy unless you KNOW you possess her as your girlfriend.

• You'll keep pestering her with questions about the "relationship label"...
• You'll ask her about her feelings and what it all means...
• You'll be too needy about having her back and you won't focus on what's required to re-attract her back.

And that's why, to trigger her attraction back, you must do THIS:

Only focus on having fun and hooking up. Create fun, romantic dates that lead to sex. (ideally make the date at your house).

Have fun, hook up, but without getting into "relationship talk" or "feelings talk".

Do this about once a week without texting too much in-between dates, and her attraction will ramp back up until she starts saying "let's talk about 'us'" and she brings up getting "back together".

But My Ex Girlfriend is Acting Cold Towards Me, What do I do Now?

As I said previously, if your ex is going cold, you must remain no contact until she reaches out.

In the meantime, focus your mind on other things by going out with buddies, focusing on school/work, working on hobbies, and MEETING OTHER GIRLS.

The last is crucial. If you're just focused on just your ex girlfriend in this point of your life, you will easily become obsessed with her... you will become too needy for her... and all of this will STOP YOU from attracting her back when she does decide to reach out.

That's why it's critical that you start seeing other girls.

Not only is this the best path to re-attracting your ex girlfriend back, but it's also the path that will help you recover in case you don't get her back.

"Why Did My Ex Girlfriend Text Me After 6 Months?"

Question: "Why did my ex girlfriend text me after 6 months?"

When your ex girlfriend suddenly texts you out of the blue, your emotions get lit up and you are back in the game.

You feel you have a chance to get her back and you want to make it happen.

If you don't know what to do, you'll accidentally push her away and she'll lose attraction again.

The Reason Your Ex Girlfriend Texted You After 6 Months

If you didn't absolutely thrash your chances by acting pathetic or being an obsessed stalker, then your ex girlfriend might start to look back at your relationship with rose-colored lenses.

Meaning, she will more likely ignore the bad parts of it and remember the good.

As she wonders about you, she gets curious of what you're up to.

She wonders if you're seeing a new girl, or if your life has changed.

So she jumps back into your orbit by reaching out... and that's why your ex girlfriend texted you after 6 months.

Now what she says and the words she texts you aren't as important as this:

If she reached out and texted you, it means you have been on her mind and she feels at least a bit of attraction for you.

See, a woman will contact you in a very indirect way. She might not directly tell you she misses you, but her act of wanting to interact with you says it all.

This gives you a glimmer of hope of getting her back.

Now as you get excited about the idea of having her back, you must realize something very important:

The reason she fell in love with you is ATTRACTION... the reason she fell OUT of love was LOSS of ATTRACTION... and the reason she is back in your life is that she is feeling ATTRACTION again.

Attraction isn't about how much money you make... or how good you look.  The guys who get all the girls are usually NOT the best looking guy in the room.

It's all about the emotions you make her feel with how you carry yourself.

For instance, if you act a bit too needy jumping at the opportunity of being "in a relationship" again, her attraction will go down.

Attraction isn't an "ON" or "OFF" switch, it's a sliding scale.

You do things to pump up her attraction, or you do things that make her attraction go down.

When the average guy gets a surprise text from their ex girlfriend, they inadvertently make mistakes that make her attraction go back down.

The Biggest Mistake to Avoid is: Don't SKIP STEPS

Look, it's awesome that your girl is showing interest again, but trying to put a "relationship label" on the interaction will push her away.

You gota take it slowly and only think about creating dates that lead to sex.

Your sole focus should just be, having fun and hooking up. 

• no "feelings talk"
• no trying to convince her to get back into the relationship
• no texting her every day (most of texting should be to make plans to meet)
• create dates only about 1 a week
• "LOVER" first, "BOYFRIEND" later

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Keeps Contacting You

Here's why your ex girlfriend keeps contacting you:

You are on her mind.

Now there's something you should know:

Attraction Isn't "Set in Stone"

Look at it this way...

This girl loved you before when you were together. Things were awesome.

But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling the love and it made her stop wanting to be your girlfriend.

She went from loving you, to not loving you.

Now, since attraction isn't "fixed", the love a woman felt for you was only IN THE MOMENT during that time... and it can't be applied to a different time when she doesn't love you.

So when you go back in contact with your ex girlfriend, you gotta start over from the beginning and
re-attract her again. You can't assume the previous years of love and jump back into the relationship
right away.

It doesn't work like that. You'll push her away.

However, here are some good news...

Because attraction isn't set in stone, yes the woman can go from loving you to not loving you, but she can ALSO go from loving you to getting the love back.

And since your ex girlfriend keeps contacting you, it means she is feeling at least some attraction for you.

Maybe she's wondering what you've been up to, and wants to get back in your life.

Or she's reminiscing about the time you spend together, and she suddenly wants to experience that again.

If you know what to do, and you handle your situation correctly, you can get the relationship back.

But if you make the 1 common mistake guys make when an ex girlfriend reaches out...  you'll push her away and lose your chance forever.

What are these mistakes?

I'll give you a little nugget of wisdom you should write down somewhere in a notebook.

One of the 5 Toxic Behaviors that STOP Your Ex Girlfriend From Loving You Again is...

Trying to Convince Her to "Get Back Together" With You

Like I covered earlier in this article, attraction isn't "set in stone". Attraction is a sliding scale that you increase or decrease.

So when your ex girlfriend shows a bit of attraction by reaching out and wanting to talk... it doesn't mean she is 100% in love and ready to be in a relationship again.

Instead of trying to put a "relationship label" on what you + her are... your sole focus should just be to create a get-together where you two have a fun romantic experience that leads to sex.

No getting serious, no talking about feelings, no trying to make it an "official relationship", only focus on having fun and hooking up.

The minute you start getting into "relationship mode"... you'll push her away and she'll feel smothered.

Instead, let the woman be the one to bring up being in a relationship. And if you carry yourself in a confident, non-needy manner while you have sexy dates with her, she'll eventually bring up getting the relationship back.

Why Your Ex Girlfriend Just Wants to Be Friends

I get emails all the time asking what do you do when your ex girlfriend just wants to be friends.

In other words... the situation when you are in the "friend zone" with your ex girlfriend because somewhere along the way, she lost attraction for you.

It deeply hurts you that she is different now. She used to love you, you had a strong connection, but now she doesn't FEEL that way anymore.

You miss the intimacy and the sweet things you used to do together. You wish you could just bring it all back.

If this is your situation, keep reading.

I'm going to show you what it takes to reverse your breakup and make your ex girlfriend want you again.

But first, there's 1 THING YOU NEED TO KNOW:

When your ex girlfriend breaks up with you, it means she no longer feels ATTRACTED.

It all comes down to ATTRACTION.

And the reason she lost attraction is probably because you made mistakes along the way that made her stop seeing you as an attractive guy.

This usually happens when men get NEEDY.

You might have acted needy without realizing it was making your girlfriend lose attraction for you.

When you did, your girlfriend distanced herself from you to seek space... but in all likelyhood, this made you more needy, so you chased, crowded her space, and made her lose attraction even MORE.

Instead, when a girl fades away, let her have that space.

I know, it might feel like you'll lose her forever if you leave her alone, but trust me on this one.

Repeatedly texting a woman who isn't replying, asking her "what's wrong", or even texting her more to make up for the fact that she's going cold will only make her want to distance herself more from you.

Remember this next time it happens to you with your ex or in a future relationship, so that you avoid losing another great woman.

I know it's hard to give a space when she's fading away, because every bone in your body has the urge to chase her to get her back... but you'll likely lose her because you did TOO MUCH, not because you didn't do anything.

Staying in Your Strong Masculine Core

See, it all comes down to your "masculine core" and whether you stray off of it.

When a girl who acts nice and makes you feel good stops acting nice, and you freak out, she loses attraction because she senses you are WEAK.

A woman wants a man who's a mountain anchored down hard. Not a sailboat flailing uncontrollably
in the wind.

So when you freak out when she goes distant...

• You show her that your eemotions can't handle her fading away
• You demonstrate that your self-esteem depends on her being nice to you
• She feels that if you become "weakened" by a girl who stops texting you, then you can't protect her from REAL danger

Ex Girlfriend Want to Be Just Friends, Now What?

This is what you do.

When your ex says she wants to breakup and remain as friends, don't accept being just friends... and then tell her to reach out if she changes her mind.

See, if you're not interested in anything platonic, and instead you want to be "more than friends", then you need to stand up for yourself and go for what you want.

This is a strong move where you come off direct and you leave the open for her to reach out in the future.

Then walk away and don't contact her again, unless she reaches out.

"Why is My Girlfriend Mad At Me?" - When She is Rude

Your girlfriend has been getting mad at you lately, and you don't know how to make it better... which makes you REALLY frustrated.

If you're asking "why is my girlfriend mad at me?!"...then keep reading.

Especially if:

• She gets angry over the smallest things...
  
• You feel you have to tip-toe around what you say to avoid making her mad...
  
• You feel she doesn't respect you anymore...
  
• You worry that you're going to lose the relationship...

Dealing with a girlfriend who's rude to you or who easily gets mad is critical to maintaining the attraction.

If you let a woman walk all over you, you will become weak in her eyes, and she'll lose attraction.

But handle this correctly, and you'll gain her respect and attraction back.

Now here's something very important you should know:

Women Act Mad and Moody When You Act Weak

A woman hates it when their boyfriend acts needy and fearful about them.

It's annoying to them, because they want a boyfriend who isn't a wuss.

They want a man... so the female will instinctively test your boundaries... to see how you react.

Will you freak out... or will you be unfazed... solid as a rock?

So she may go distant at one point... and this will actually be a "test". See, like the tide that goes up and down, a woman might get busy and will need time away from you to deal with her emotions.

Your reaction to this is CRITICAL.

(More: Why a girl acts cold and distant)

If your girlfriend has been getting mad at you lately, ask yourself: "Is she legitimally stressed?... is she just acting immature?...

Or is it your weak behavior that's annoying her and causing her to act this way?

If you're displaying weakness, and it's turning a woman off, then here's something else you need to know:

When Women Lose Attraction, it Doesn't Happen Overnight

See, women lose attraction slowly over time... not all at once.

If you're the kind of person who gets fearful that a girl might leave you... and if things she does makes you imagine bad scenarios of her dumping you, cheating, or liking one of her guy friends more... then that fear will cause you to display weak needy behavior.

But ironically, all of these fears over time increase the risk of making your fears a REALITY.

This leads us to...

The Exercise of Valuing Yourself

If you get irrational feelings that she won't like you anymore and hook up with another guy,
then you're not valuing yourself enough.

You gotta think to yourself:

• "I am a catch""...
• "If she treats me badly, she doesn't deserve me"
• "I only accept first-class treatment from women"...
• "I filter for awesome girls who treasure me and want to join me on my journey of life"...
• "If she cheats, she is disqualified and I don't want her anyways"...
• "She is lucky to be with me, if she throws the relationship away, she will miss out"...
• "I am on my journey, on my path, she will miss the train if she doesn't join me in this journey"...

Read these affirmations and see which ones resonate with you. Feel free to use your own wording to come up with more affirmations.

The bottom line is that you must stand up for yourself and respect yourself if you want women to respect and love you as well.

When you give up your power in order to please a woman to avoid her getting mad at you... it usually means you're in SCARCITY.

Meaning, you feel that if you lose her it'll be the end of the world, so you really want to keep her. You'll do anything to keep her... including sacrificing yourself and putting yourself down.

So if a girlfriend is rude, abusive, and gets mad for the silliest things, remember that there are tons of women out there in the world.

Be a man of OPTIONS, and your brain will stop having intense irrational feelings that step from scarcity... and it'll make your dating life more successful and happy.

Why Did My Girlfriend Leave Me For Another Guy

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Whenever a guy writes me asking "why did my girlfriend leave me for another guy"...

...the real question is: "Why did this girl lose attraction for you?"

Because here's the deal:

Your girlfriend lost attraction for you and either 1. You had no idea she was losing interest, or 2. You had a bad feeling that something was wrong, but you didn't know what to do about it

The general reason she lost attraction is simple:

When she first fell in love, you did something to attract her, and she was attracted to that version of you. However, somewhere along the way you stopped being "attractive"... and you turned into a "weak" insecure version of yourself that turned the girl off.

More Specific Reasons She Lost Attraction

When you're not emotionally strong and centered (this is masculine energy)... and you are weak and easily get thrown "off balance"...

This particularly happens when a girl becomes distant.

When she seems a little distant... maybe she stops texting you like before... or she doesn't seem as eager to meet you... or if she mentions a guy friend she hangs out with... all of this makes you worried that you're going to lose her.

So what your brain does here is that it becomes dependent on her "validation".

You start overvaluing her texts. Whenever she texts you, it makes you feel awesome... but whenever she goes a long time without texting you back, you feel like crap.

In essence, you are not emotionally strong and centered like a man.

The girl senses this and loses attraction... and she starts lining up another guy to take your place.

I know this is hard to hear. But women don't leave without another option ready.

By the time she decides to dump you, she already has lost almost all attraction for you... and she already knows which guy will take your place.

This isn't something that happens overnight. Women slowly gain attraction over time, and they slowly lose it. If you don't notice she's losing attraction, it can cause deep pain when she surprises you with "the talk".

That's why it's important to get this part of your life handled... to avoid this happening, and to make sure you get the results you want of a lasting happy relationship.

But now the result you want is to "flip" the attraction of your ex girlfriend to get back the relationship you once had.

You want her back more than anything in the world. You wish you knew exactly how.

The first part is to go over the mistakes that cause your girlfriend to lose attraction.

We went over some of them.

Next, you want to further understand how attraction works so that you are able to use it to attract your ex girlfriend back.

A big part of this is the "no contact" rule... and to communicate with your ex girlfriend the correct way when she reaches out. (Most guys mess this part up)

In this article, I reveal how:

http://championsofmen.com/when-your-ex-girlfriend-reaches-out-after-a-long-time-of-no-contact/

How to Re-Attract Your Ex Girlfriend Back to You

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When your girlfriend doesn't "feel it" anymore and decides to leave you... you feel like your whole world has ended.

Your mind scrambles to find answers as to why she lost attraction, and most importantly, how to get her back.

And this all comes down to this question: How do you make a girl get "feelings" for you again?

Keep reading, because the real answer to this might shock you.

And it all starts with this 1 critical fact about attraction:

Attraction Isn't "Set in Stone"

Just as a woman falls "in love with you" when her attraction level ramps up high enough... she can fall out of love with you when she loses the attraction.

The tides of attraction can change. Your girl seemed so in love with you before, now she's gone completely cold and you have no idea how it happened.

It hurts when you notice a girl start to slowly fade away.

• She doesn't reply to your texts like before...
• She doesn't call you by your petname like before...
• She doesn't include you in your future plans like she did before...

(Here are more signs your girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore)

At the pit of your stomach... you sense something is VERY wrong.

You just FEEL something bad is going to happen... and soon enough, she gives you the "talk".

She says she wants to take a "break"... says she doesn't "feel the same anymore" or maybe she gives an excuse like you two aren't compatible, or she doesn't date guys who are younger, or much older, etc.

Whatever reason she gives, it's her way of rationalizating why she lost attraction for you. But the important is that she lost the ATTRACTION. That's what really matters.

Why Did She Lose Attraction?

Women become attracted to you due to the way you carry yourself... but they can lose attraction when you change your behavior and start acting weak.

This often happens when you get fearful, insecure feelings... and she feels you are getting too needy.

If a woman ever mentions that she feels smothered, or that you're acting clingy, it's a strong sign that you're becoming too needy and it's turning her off.

When you lose your masculine spark and you start acting like an insecure little wuss, women get turned off and become distant. What's worse is that when she fades away, you act even more insecure and it makes the problem worse and worse until it all ends in a downward spiral.

The Good News

Ok, here's some good news. (Finally right?)

The good news is that, as I said before, attraction isn't "set in stone".

If you change the way you carry yourself it's very possible to re-attract your ex girlfriend back to you.

But to do this, you must radically change the way you think RIGHT NOW.

The reason is that the way you're thinking at this moment is probably a distortion of reality.

See, you're doing the things that a part of you thinks will re-attract your ex girlfriend back... while a different, wiser part of you knows that doing the same things that got you bad results won't get you the good result you want.

However, you are confused on what to do... so you're just instinctively doing things because you feel you at least have to do SOMETHING.

In this article, you will learn the steps and mindsets that re-attract your ex girlfriend back to you:
http://championsofmen.com/how-to-re-attract-your-ex-girlfriend-back-to-you/

Signs My Ex Girlfriend Wants Me Back

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So... your ex girlfriend texted you out of the blue and now you're suddenly wondering if you could get her back.

But before you do anything else, read this article to learn the #1 mistake men make when trying to
"convince" their ex girlfriends to be in a relationship with them again.

Students often write me asking "what are the signs my ex girlfriend wants me back"

Let's go over some of these signs.

1. She Starts Using Your "Pet Name" Again

This is a big sign that she wants to make things go back to how they were before.

It signifies comfort, and a "lovey-dovey" vibe.

2. She Sounds Eager to Communicate With You and Texts You Back Quickly

When a woman loses attraction for you, she distances herself, and you notice she isn't texting you like before.

But if you notice an ex girlfriend changes and she's suddenly eager to talk, it's a strong indicator she's thinking about you and misses you.

3. She Randomly Texts You Out of the Blue

If you're wondering what are the "signs my ex girlfriend wants me back?"...then here's something you should know about female psychology...

When your ex girlfriend texts you out of the blue, it's for a reason.

See, when a girl misses you, she starts thinking about you, and then figures out a way to jump back into your life.

She will probably do this very INDIRECTLY.  Meaning, she might use an"excuse".

And here's what you should do:

Whatever method she uses to get back into your life, assume the reason she's doing it is because she wants to see you... and then suggest meeting up.

The detailed plan of what to do in this situation is laid out in this article where I go through what to do when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact.

However, you must beware. The following blunder is one guys keep making ALL THE TIME.

The #1 Big Mistake

Want to know the biggest mistake men make when trying to get an ex back?

It's this:

Pushing your ex girlfriend away because you're trying to get the relationship label back too quickly.

Yes your ex is back in your life... and you want to take advantage of this opportunity to make her yours again... but pressuring her to commit to being "official" again will only work against you.

It makes the girl feel "less free"... it makes things "serious" and less fun... your interactions lose qualities that generate attraction.

And as soon as you try to cage your ex into a relationship, she will feel pressured, her attraction will fade, and you will lose her AGAIN... and maybe this time forever.

What you should instead do is start from the beginning. Only focus on having fun and getting physical with her.

Also...

• Don't be attached to whether she is exclusively yours or not
• Don't talk about the meaning of you and her
• Don't get into "feelings" talk
• Don't ask her when you're going to be "together" again
• Don't be clingy
• Don't become needy of her attention to feel good

Instead, hang out, have fun, and hook up.

Your goal is just to arrange dates that lead to sex.

Be clever about it. Making dinner together at your place, in your kitchen (which is 15 feet from your bed)  is 100 times better than dinner at some fancy restaurant. You'll get laid a lot more being smart about logistics.

If you carry yourself with this attitude, your ex will become more and more attracted until she starts bringing up being in a relationship again. That's how you make your ex girlfriend fall in love with you more than ever before.

How to Win Back a Girl Who Has lost Interest

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When a Girl Goes Cold...

 An awesome, special girl you really like has gone distant...
and so you want to know how to win back a girl who has lost itnerest.

Shortly, I'll reveal how.

Why She Went Cold

When a girl who used to like you starts going cold, there's always that moment when she starts fading away.

You get a bad feeling in your stomach that something is different.

She doesn't want to meet up like before... she comes up excuses... she doesn't reply to your texts like before.

You're worried that you'll lose the connection you have with her, but worse of all, you feel she's starting to like some other guy and THEY are hooking up without you knowing.

But now let's answer the big question, why did the girl go cold?

The reason she went cold is that she lost attraction for you, and now she feels she's "above" you.

This is the IMAGE she has of you.

There was something you did, over time, that created this image, and made her lose attraction.

See, for a woman to feel attraction for you, she has have the image that you are at least slightly above her.

Girlfriends who lose attraction for their boyfriends do so when their boyfriends commit the typical mistakes that make the girl see them as weak and insecure.

When the boyfriend starts acting like a needy, insecure puppy, the girl loses attraction and doesn't think of him as the strong man she wants.

Many guys mess up because they do things like...

• Getting needy over text 
• Texting too much
• Getting jealous
• Revealing how they feel about her and how he's afraid of of losing her
• Constantly checking up on her and acting like the possessive boyfriend 
• Acting clingy and making her feel smothered

Do you want to know how to win back a girl who has lost interest and flip your situation around?

You must do specific behaviors that break this image she has of you and replace it with another one where she sees you as an "attractive man" again.

First, stop doing the mistakes I mentioned. They are stopping her love from coming back.

Once you start acting strong, that will greatly improve your chances.

Next: Incorporate these 3 behaviors into your life to boost the "value" she sees in you

She Lost Interest? Here's How to Get it Back

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When a woman you like doesn't like you back, it drives you crazy.

You really want her, but you fear you will never have her.

Your brain spins around trying to come up ways to make her like you.

If a girl isn't reciprocating your affection, the good news is that there is a way to turn this situation around.

This article reveals something called "the *SECRET* pattern of interaction" that you can use to your advantage to make a woman get an urge to sleep with you:

She lost interest? How to Get it Back by Breaking the Pattern of interaction

The bad news is that it's very hard to break this pattern once it's settled.

One reason is that we are creatures of habit.

But the most important reason is that you're so dependent on this girl's VALIDATION.

See, you don't want to break the pattern because you don't want to break rapport. You need this girl's approval to feel good about yourself. It's like you're the little puppy and she's the mommy and you need her approval to have a sense of IDENTITY.

However, if you want to sleep with this woman and make her feel a strong attraction for you, you must first step out of your comfort zone, and do what needs to be done.

Because here's harsh truth is this:

If a girl isn't attracted to you, it's because she feels you are "lower-status" than her.

Moreover, she doesn't see you as someone she can be more than friends with... she doesn't imagine
getting romantic or sexual with you.

This is an image she has in her mind that you have to change.

How?

By doing things that break that image and make her think of you differently.

When you do behaviors that plant ideas in her mind and she starts imagining what it'll be
like to sleep with you, then she thinks "This guy isn't who I thought he was, he is different".

And that's when her image of you changes, and she starts feeling attraction for you.

How to make this happen?

Learn more here.